Not insane so much as unsane.
This post lead me to your blog. Very nice post and I can identify with this. In WoW, DDO and LoTRO I've felt this pressure to catchup - I always have joined games well after they launched and thus had the big hill to climb. Having RL friends who'll always play with me helps, though I do want to be part of a wider gaming community. Personally I'm not a fan of power levelling (being the recipient or mentor), I remember in DDO on the old EU servers it seemed like 99% of the population wanted to just zerg-rush through every quest at warp speed. It was very hard for a new player to learn the dungeons or tactics with such groups so I gave up in the end. Regardless you and your guild do sound supportive and that's all any player can really expect. I hope the situation works (or has worked) out well!